I need help.

[midnightblue]

On the elevator where I work, I met a man about my
age. We've been
friendly and even had lunch together (accidentally),
but the only
time I really see him is on the elevator. Last week,
we exchanged
e-mail addresses, so I know he's interested. I want
to get closer to
him, but every time I come up with a flirty e-mail, I
erase it before
I send it. I'm terrible at this stuff. Can anyone
here help me out
on this?

[aji]

I think you should call Bro Joesph Joy on his mobile phone for more help. As many things cant be discussed in a public forum. I am mailing his phone number to you.

Thanks,
Aji

[Joseph_Joy]

Different people have different priorities in life, e.g. studies, family, career, marriage, business etc. If you do not set your priorities correctly, you may suffer. From what you write, I understand that you wish to start a relationship, which is supposed to lead to marriage and a life time commitment. If your priority at present is getting married, then you may proceed with your desire, but you need to take care.

Since the relation is supposed to lead to marriage and a life time commitment, you should take a wise and correct decision. Since you are already attracted to him, there is a chance that your emotions might influence your decision. Therefore, let someone who is wise and who know what family life is (preferably an elder) get to know the person and advise you. Since, in marriage, with the union of two individuals, two families are united, it is also wise to involve people who matter and those who love you in such important decisions.

Saying “I love you!” to someone is easy, but living a lifetime together is not that easy. So take care before you say those three words. Those words are very precious and valuable. God does not want us to misuse those words and so He prevents us. God wants us to say those words only to our life partner. When we grow up, a certain age comes when our body develops and then we get attracted to the opposite sex. This is natural. If you do not get attracted, then there is a problem. So you do not have to say those three words because you are attracted. In future some others also might attract you as it is natural. Learn to understand this natural phenomenon and be in control of it.

So first decide you really want to get married now. If you want to get married, then get to know the person. Seek the advice of elder people who love you. Once all these are done, you or your parents or anyone can approach the person or his family with the marriage proposal.

In case you need more help, you may contact me over the phone which Aji gave to you.